Are you making this huge mistake about romance?

by Anne O'Connor

This week I wrote a love letter to my community.

I wrote about missing you all so much during this wild time. And I posted it on my private Facebook page. You can read it below this post.

Some wondered if I was missing a particular person—a lover who was at the center of all the things on the list.

Let me just say this now: If such a man exists and he’s single, will you introduce me?

Reading my letter as a romantic tribute to a lover I long for makes sense. We are so prepped for that interpretation. And that isn’t wrong. It just wasn’t the whole story.

What I wrote is a collection of all the love that I have or have had in my life. And yes, part of that is a longing for a particular lover. People heard my heart.

I have been and am well-loved. That is a treasure I hold with tender and careful hands.

Love, though, has as many lines as there are on your palm. Some are deep and long, some are hard to even see. Some lines run the whole distance....

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As Minneapolis Burns, A Letter To White People

Friends, especially white friends. As you know, Minneapolis is in a world of hurt. The city is grieving the horrific killing of George Floyd at the hands of a white cop with a long history of brutality. 
 
We all know white people who have perspectives and mindsets that are destructive. We may be those very white people. And if you don't know white people with dangerous perspectives, you're not looking hard enough or you're deciding to write them off. Now is the time to reconsider: talk to your uncle, your gran, your neighbor, your colleague at work. Reach out and stand up even if its awkward. Even if you get it wrong. 
 
It is past time to come to a new understanding of our roles. We must all act to dismantle systems that hurt black, indigenous, and people of color. This is on us. 
 
It is easy to sit on the sidelines and be sarcastic and cynical and to throw names and insults around, but that does more harm than good. Truly. I see this in...
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Better than Surviving: How to Stay Emotionally Well in the Time of COVID-19

 

Anne O'Connor

For some people, our new world of pandemic-required isolation has meant more time with loved ones, a welcomed slowing down, and maybe a little more sleep. 

And for others, the strain of trying to work from home with the kids around, working on the front-line jobs, the loss of connection, or watching loved ones suffer is taking a toll. 

Maybe it's all true at the same time. Which can lead to feeling happy and grateful one day and weepy and worried the next. If this sounds familiar, you're not alone. 

This week, I start a new video-interview series called "Better than Surviving: How to Stay  Emotionally Well in the Time of COVID-19. I'll gather experts who are steeped in the research and work focused on thriving and what it takes: yes, even in a pandemic. Through these interviews, we'll bring you practical ideas along with emotional support and a big dose of inspiration to get us through this time stronger and ready for whatever comes next. 

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This is why you can't sleep: How to build all-day energy

by Anne O'Connor


Sleep solves so many problems. And the more irregular and infrequent your sleep, the more problems you have.  

I'm not just talking about sniping at the people you love and being unpleasant to be around—although I am talking about that. Don't sleep and your relationships are going to stink. That's the real deal. If you find yourself regularly cranky, irritable and short-tempered, you may want to consider more sleep. Your people certainly want you to.  

It's more than our relationships that are affected though. Not getting enough sleep can contribute to all kinds of other problems—everything from being overweight, to lower libido, a host of illnesses and car crashes. Plus, people being sleep-deprived has been linked to some of the most serious accidents in memory—Chernobyl, the Exxon Valdez crash, and the space shuttle Challenger accident. Some research shows that people who sleep less die earlier. With...

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