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Stop F'ing Around:

Heal. Focus. Rise.

A year-long, small-cohort experience for values-driven leaders—done strong-arming their lives, ready to live with steadiness and joy.

You've held a lot. 

You've accomplished a lot. 

You've helped a lot of people. 

And...your own well-being has been last in line for a long time. 

Stop F'ing Around: Heal. Focus. Rise. is where powerful women—and the occasional brave man—stop muscling through their lives and start living with clarity, steadiness, and a deep, embodied sense of self-respect.

This is embodied change—slow enough to stick, strong enough to matter. Held with love, structure, accountability, and reverence.

Next cohort begins on the Summer Solstice:  June 21, 2026.
Enrollment deadline:  June 1, 2026.

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If any of this is true… you’re in the right place.

You’re a woman (35–65ish) who leads—in mental health care, organics and better-for-you, education, nonprofits, social justice work, or other high-stakes environments. And you believe in a better world. 

And lately, you’re noticing that:

  • You’re functioning… but you want to thrive. 
  • Your nervous system is tired.
  • You’re brilliant with other people—and harder on yourself than you’d ever be with a client, student, or staff member.
  • You keep saying you’ll slow down / be more balanced / make the change… after this next busy thing.
  • You crave a community that is smart, loving, real, and with you.
  • You want to feel grounded in your body.
  • You want to lead with less reactivity and more power.
  • You want joy and aliveness—without burning your life down to get it.

 This is the moment you stop waiting for "someday." 

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Enrollment Closes June 1, 2026 

I need time to finalize the cohort, prepare materials, and be ready for our Solstice start. 

No pressure, but a true deadline. 

* a note: If there is significant interest in an in-person Minneapolis cohort, I will consider opening one.

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What this process does 

Over the year, you will:

    • Heal old patterns shaped by grief, burnout, and overfunctioning.
    • Train your brain and nervous system for steadiness, clarity, and emotional skill.
    • Strengthen boundaries without guilt, harshness, or collapse.
    • Practice communication that helps you stop taking over, shrinking, snapping, pleasing, or avoiding.
    • Build a sustainable life that supports your leadership, relationships, and sense of purpose.
    • Return to yourself as a lived experience, not just an idea.
    • Support your important work in the world. We lead to make a difference.

You will leave with a stronger internal foundation, more joy, more clarity, more confidence—and the skills and community to keep it going.

The structure: weekly, deep, and doable

This is a year-long cohort, up to 8 participants.

We meet live 3 hours per week in the SFA Practice Circle for:

  • movement + body-based grounding

  • breathwork

  • writing and reflection

  • teaching + discussion

  • breaks + fun

Meeting time (Central Time):

  • Sundays, 9:00 AM–12:00 PM CT starting June 21, 2026

 

What’s included:

When you join Stop F’ing Around, you receive:

 

Weekly SFA Practice Circle 

  • A live, fully guided and facilitated 3-hour session that is the heart of the process. We'll gather, move, write, learn, explore, discuss, grow, and practice together. 

1:1 support

  • Quarterly 30-minute progress check-ins with Anne O’Connor, MSW, LICSW
    (Q&A, reflection, and custom support for you)

Course access + replays

  • Course-lifetime access to complete online materials

  • Main-lesson replays so you can revisit and deepen the work

A beautifully-designed workbook

  • Track your growth, insights, boundaries, and practices

  • Make the work tangible--and easier to stick with

Private, curated online community

  • A place for genuine support, reflection, discussion, and connection outside sessions

  • The small cohort invites depth and growth together

BeLightful Boxes (monthly delight)

  • Monthly delivered treats designed to help you practice the work

  • To be delighted. To be light. To remember who you are.

Mid-year long weekend retreat (in person)

  • A powerful in-person long weekend about halfway through the year (airfare not included.)

  • Deepening, integration, and real-life bonding

Certification + continuing education

  • Certificate of completion: Mindfulness Training Certificate

  • Continuing Education: Anne is pursuing approved CE provider status in Minnesota; goal is 40 CE hours (availability dependent on final approval)

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This is for you if…

You want rigorous self-growth in a safe, boundaried container.

You’re willing to:

  • show up consistently

  • be honest

  • practice what you learn

  • stop abandoning yourself

  • give the world your gifts

You don’t need more willpower--that doesn't work.
To truly build what you want, you need an elegant structure, a consistent community, and loving accountability. I provide that.

This is not for you if…

Let’s save us both time:

  • You want a casual drop-in experience.

  • You complain, but don't want to do the work to change.

  • You’re unwilling to practice between sessions.

  • Your addictions (alcohol/drugs/porn/shopping etc.) are so intense that you need direct therapeutic treatment first.

SFA is a rigorous, loving kick in the pants, so you need to be ready for this level of work. I can help you decide if you're not sure.

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What past participants say 

"Get off the fence."

"Anne is a wonderful facilitator of women's groups...If you are on the fence about committing this time to the work of improving your physical and emotional health, get off the fence.  It's never too late, you are never too old...you are never too young. You can feel better. You can feel happier. You can feel more in control of your life and your health...You won't regret it."

Mari 
CEO/Executive Director and SFA Graduate

"Wise investment"

"Two and a half years later, I draw on the work that I did with Anne every day, multiple times…Working with Anne is a really wise investment. It enhanced many of the relationships I have, it helped me be able to set boundaries better and learn how to be more present in relationships."

Robin 
Development Director and SFA graduate

"Truly transformational" 

"Being a part of Anne O’Connor’s workshop was truly transformational to me in my life. Stop F'ing Around provided me the support I needed to take the steps and do the hard work and hold myself accountable to making the choices that were best for me to move my life forward in a way that feels amazing today."

Michelle

Marketing Manager and SFA graduate

About Anne O’Connor, MSW, LICSW

I’m Anne O’Connor, MSW, LICSW, and I founded Metamorphix in 2011. For fifteen years, I’ve designed and facilitated rigorous, relational group experiences alongside my leadership roles and clinical training.

Before becoming a therapist, I served as Director of Public Affairs at Organic Valley, a billion-dollar cooperative, where I worked closely with leadership. I was also on the management team at MOSA, one of the largest organic certifiers in the country, and later served as Development Director at a private Waldorf school. I know what it means to carry responsibility inside mission-driven organizations.

I’ve lived inside high-stakes, values-forward leadership. I understand the pressure, the loneliness, and the sneaky self-abandonment that can creep in when you are capable and carry a lot.

Over time, I chose to deepen my work. I returned to school, became a licensed clinical social worker, and continued coaching leaders. My facilitation integrates real-world leadership experience with clinical insight, nervous system work, and embodied practice. We don't just explore change. We practice.

I also celebrated forty years of sobriety this year. That daily commitment to responsibility, repair, humility, and growth undergirds everything I teach. I believe deeply in human fallibility and in our capacity to change.

Stop F’ing Around is not therapy. It is not a quick fix. It is not leadership and growth for its own sake. We're here to change the world. Starting with yours. 

Stop F'ing Around is a high-trust, year-long leadership cohort for women who are ready to stop diluting their impact, strengthen their boundaries, and lead with clarity and courage in a complex world.

You bring the commitment, the courage, and the willingness to practice. I bring the structure, the experience, and the steady container. Together, that’s how real change happens.

Together, we face what’s real.
Together, we lead to make a difference.

You don’t have to do this alone.

Most values-driven women have been trained to handle it.
To keep it together.
To be the steady one.

And you are steady. That’s not the problem.

The problem is how often you’ve had to steady everyone else while quietly strong-arming your own life—muscling through, minimizing your needs, and saying it's “just how it is.”

Here’s the truth: you can be powerful and supported.
You can be responsible and rested.
You can lead and live like your life belongs to you.

Stop F'ing Around is a loving kick in the pants, for when you're done with half-way efforts.

You will be held with care. You will be asked to face the truth. And you will practice the skills that make change actually stick. So you can give what you've got to this world.

Why now

Because “later” is seductive—and it’s been stealing your years.
Because you’re not here to survive your own life.
Because the people you serve benefit when you’re well, not when you’re depleted and resentful.
Because this is a small, curated cohort, and the container matters.

Enrollment closes June 1, 2026.
After that date, I finalize the cohort, materials, and retreat planning—and registration is closed.

If you feel the yes in your body—listen to the body. It's a pretty good tell.  

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Investment

Paid in full: $12,500

Quarterly payments: $3,437.50 quarterly for 4 quarters (total $13,750)

Monthly payments: $1,197 monthly for 12 months (total $14,364)

 

This work is a commitment. And it becomes a resource you draw on for years.

This is a five-figure investment. If that’s within reach and you feel the pull, book the call.

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Enrollment deadline: June 1, 2026

Because this is a small, curated cohort with materials, group placement, and planning, including retreat logistics, everyone must be enrolled by June 1, 2026.

Spots are limited to keep the group intentional, focused, and rising. 

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2026-27 Scholarships Available  

 
Offering full or reduced cost scholarship is a fundamental part of my work ethos. Since I began this work in 2011, I have provided scholarship funding in every course I've offered. 
 
To apply for the 2026-27 Stop F'ing Around scholarship: 
 
Fill out the application here.
 

FAQ

Is this therapy?

This is a coaching/facilitation-based cohort experience, not psychotherapy. Anne is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker (MSW, LICSW), but this program is designed as a transformational small-group experience with strong boundaries and confidentiality.

What if I’m not sure whether I’m a fit?

That’s exactly what the call is for. We’ll talk about what you want, what’s getting in the way, and whether this container is the right next step.

Do men ever join?

Men are welcome, truly. Historically, women are the ones who raise their hands for this work—especially values-driven women who are ready to be supported the way they support others.

Online or in person?

The June cohort is online and national. Meeting virtually allows us to gather a powerful group of values-driven leaders from across the country.

If enough Minneapolis-based leaders express interest, I’m open to facilitating an in-person cohort.

What’s expected outside sessions?

You’ll have practices and reflection prompts. Nothing busy-worky—this is about integration. The women who get the most results are the women who practice what we do.

What about confidentiality?

Confidentiality is taken seriously and will be clearly outlined. This is a boundaried, respectful space.

Scenes from previous Stop F'ing Around groups 

 And here are some glimpses of previous Belighted Boxes and Stop F'ing Around gatherings.