Good community agreements promote strong community gatherings.

We're building community and I need you to agree to some basic rules if you want to join us. Please read carefully, as we will hold each other to these standards.

1. All people who are willing to build community according to these guidelines are welcome here. We work to consciously include and explicitly invite people from all economic backgrounds, races and cultures, genders, and people from gay, lesbian, bi, trans, queer, and poly relationships.
2. We strive toward open-hearted curiosity and away from judgement about other people's lives and relationships.
3. We aim to recognize that when people are hurting, our job is to give that pain space. We don't try to shield people from their pain. We don't try to fix their pain. We don't assume that they are their pain.
4. We don't hold people in place--whether in a "good" place or a "stuck" place. We remember that we're all in process all the time and that we're complex and ever-changing. 
5. We remember that we're all soft-bellied creatures of the planet and we make space for that vulnerable reality. 
6. We don't give advice unless explicitly asked for it. Instead, we learn to reflect skillfully and ask good questions.
7. If we ask for advice, we acknowledge the advice and commit to considering good ideas.
8. We are kind in spirit, tone, and word. We lead with love, care, and respect.
9. That doesn't mean we don't swear. Please don't be offended by swearing if you're going to join this community. There almost certainly will be swearing.
10. Respect privacy. What you hear here stays here: don't tell stories that aren't yours to tell. Please don't record the session, even just for personal use. 
11. I—Anne—have final discretion and decision-making power about who stays in this community. This is not a democracy. No one is entitled stay if they choose destructive behavior. I will not tolerate personal attacks, name-calling, or similar nonsense. If you're struggling to express yourself within these guidelines, I'll step in and help you express yourself better.  You agree to be coached in that moment, should it arise. 
12. This isn't a space for selling your stuff or services. Don't do it.
13. Slow down, be clear and thoughtful, and you’ll be a great contributor and help build a great community.